The Real Victim

15 Aug 2019

Today I visited some of my relatives. The topic during discussion moves towards TALAAQ, that how a girl gets divorced just within one month of her marriage due to mobile. Because his husband got doubtful about her past. I just tried to justify that she was a good girl, we should not doubt her character, talking to boys frankly during university is a normal thing, why we consider it normal for boys but not for girls.
According to them, female use woman card to gain sympathy, only a minority of them is victims of cruelty. Most of them get beaten because of their own mistakes. Men are also a victim, they also get depression, do suicide but nobody supports them, highlight their issue. I tried to convince them that I do agree with all the problems men face. Like in this society a man has to carry the luggage of marrying his sisters, his daughter, took care of her family, supports his sons for business, marry them etc. We just have made men money earning machine and they are not even allowed to show their sadness, they are not allowed to weep, so in the end, all they learn is to show every expression through their anger. I get all of it.
But you have to accept that women are the real victim. Because when a women get raped, nobody will agree to marry that girl. But that man who did that rape can easily move on, marry any girl of his choice. Being a girl whenever I go out, I always fear that anyone can abduct me, and do whatever he can. And I will have nothing to justify myself. I cannot speak bolder because if the opposite boy got jealous, hyper. I can be a victim. Women get raped, women are a victim of acid attacks. Even the little girls are not safe, what is their mistake? In almost every department in universities, girls are getting better results than boys. When I look around in the society I see that in every home, girls are more educated than boys. But in professional life, most of the girls you saw as toppers would not even do the job, because their families did not support them and some of them which are doing something in the field just ask them, what sort of interaction they have with males of this society in their whole day. And then ask what difficulties you have to face while interacting with a man in your life. Ask your sister once.
When this society will be secure for women, you will not hesitate to send your wife, sister, daughter working, doing a job, earning all by herself. Learn to make this society a secure place, and learn to share your financial burden with your family. Get out of your depression and relief the women of their struggle and depression.
Of course, all I am saying here I could not explain to them, whatever I argue with them I got scolded by my family because I am not supposed to talk boldly. Argue with the male. And at the end of the day, despite knowing that I was just sharing my perspective I regret why I did not stay quiet.

If you agree with me, just comment agree and if you do not do share your perspective in the comments.